Let’s just start it off right, with a quote from Carrie Bradshaw from the show Sex and The City. The TV hit is celebrating it’s 20 year anniversary, which is wildly beyond me. Growing up I watched every single episode, it inspired me to move to New York City and it taught me the importance of female friendship. But in regards to this Wedding Season thing, I have some words to say.
‘Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.’ Carrie
In all honestly this is truly how I feel. I get utterly frustrated when friends or family don’t believe one could actually be happy being alone. Listen, I don’t want to be alone forever but I like spending the time working on myself, doing things that make me happy, going to bed when I want to, traveling with no emotional attachment physically somewhere else, etc.
I think it’s very empowering being single, and even more attractive embracing it. When you come to terms with loving yourself first, everything else will fall into place when it’s not your priority. Do not try and validate yourself through a man, validate yourself on your own merit.
Also appreciate the friendships that you have, and spend time with those lucky ones as much as possible. It’s tragic to see friends I know abandon all the days of the week to spend it with one person who isn’t their person. It’s almost like they know they’re dating “Mr. Wrong” but rather be validated through having being accepted romantically vs. dating around or dating no one. At the end of the day all of us should realize that somewhere there is someone who will eventually accept you and your amazing flaws. And one day you can meet “your person” but do not push or rush yourself to try and find that (guilty as charged)
Instead realize when you break up with “Mr.Wrong” you’ll go running back to those people you relied on before you started dating them. It hurts me to accept a person can choose to abandon a friendships, think texting makes up for it, and expect it to be all coming up roses when they want the friendship back. I’m realizing this sounds more like a rant versus tricks and tips of surviving wedding season alone.
But first, another Sex and The City quote…
‘I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want as long as I can breathe – and kneel.’ Samantha
Most days I feel like Samantha… just very fuck it, mentality. Pardon my french.
Girl, do what and who you want. You are not run by anyone. When you go to a wedding enjoy the free food, the fancy dresses and open bar. Dance the night away and just realize that when the right one falls into your lap you’ll get to enjoy these moments with them.
But for now you have your friends and family to enjoy them with, and those relationships will also last forever.
‘Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us and understand us and kiss our three heads and make it all better’ Carrie
Maybe it’s because the majority, if not all of the weddings I’ve attended have been of cousins, I haven’t been as aggravated about my no date situation. But there were weddings in the passed I felt sad I didn’t have a date with, or even anyone to text and say “I miss you” to. I think I have gone passed that all, into a completely calm mindset of what will happen will happen. I know my worth and I know the pieces will fall as they may. In time of sadness or anger I have turned my back to fate. But at that moment fate had another definition. Fate, to me then was in the hands of someone else. Fate, to me now is in my own hands. But only because I have accepted myself more than I ever have, have I accepted fate more.
And to end it, I have one more Sex and The City quote because Carrie Bradshaw was absolutely ahead of her time.
The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.’ Carrie
For more great amazing lines from the hit show check out: http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/entertainment/tv-and-film/sex-and-the-city-the-best-carrie-bradshaw-quotes-121822
Just enjoy being no strings attached, let loose and drink up!