Like Literally

Like Literally

As a lady in her late twenties I find I easily get thrown into the “basic white girl” stereotype. Like, OMG I like fashion, photography, social media, flowers and brunch. Like, sue me, I DIE. But in all reality please stop all the judgement society (and men). I went to school for cinematography, so photography is pretty much another passion of mine. As someone whose been into anything visual or aesthetically pleasing my whole life, it would come to no surprise that I’ve always loved fashion and lifestyle as well. Fashion to me is a way of self expression, it has nothing to do with dressing for others. I can transform my confidence level from an 80% to a solid 99% with an outfit that makes me feel great. To that other 1%, lets be honest I ain’t ever feeling 100% perfect. If you are congrats!  And in regards to that brunch judgement, I genuinely am just hungover and in need of a bloody mary and a possible side of waffles. You shouldn’t think too much into that sort of thing.

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But seriously going back to the whole social media, Instagram and influencer thing it makes a lot of sense when you think about it. What is the main reason for any human to take a picture? My first answer would to share it with others. As someone who studied the art of film, I felt that storytelling was always a visual thing. I wasn’t much of a writer (and still am not) hence all my grammatical errors and delay in postings. When I meet up with friends and I tell them about my experiences abroad I find myself drawing blanks as I can not find the words to identify with the feeling. The best way I can  give someone an idea of a feeling or a memory is a photograph or video.

So, thank god for social media. I don’t need to write down or discuss my stories for the most part. I can simply post a picture, and lately that’s been all I needed to do in order for others to see my vision, my world and the perspective I have on anything. The gist of this whole post is to nip the Instagram and social media haters in the bud. Our culture has been accustom to sharing our experiences with others, mainly to connect. It seems odd but we’re in a crazy time of loneliness yet constant sharing. I am not saying don’t go out and have a conversation or don’t make friends. Because believe me my favorite thing todo is share a great dialogue but I believe social media has just elevated the way we express ourselves on a larger scale. We all want to feel appreciated, understood and close-knit to the world. This is just one of the newer ways we do it.

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How to Deal with Being Alone During Wedding Season

How to Deal with Being Alone During Wedding Season

Let’s just start it off right, with a quote from Carrie Bradshaw from the show Sex and The City. The TV hit is celebrating it’s 20 year anniversary, which is wildly beyond me. Growing up I watched every single episode, it inspired me to move to New York City and it taught me the importance of female friendship. But in regards to this Wedding Season thing, I have some words to say.

‘Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.’  Carrie

image-1.jpgIn all honestly this is truly how I feel. I get utterly frustrated when friends or family don’t believe one could actually be happy being alone. Listen, I don’t want to be alone forever but I like spending the time working on myself, doing things that make me happy, going to bed when I want to, traveling with no emotional attachment physically somewhere else, etc.

I think it’s very empowering being single, and even more attractive embracing it. When you come to terms with loving yourself first, everything else will fall into place when it’s not your priority. Do not try and validate yourself through a man, validate yourself on your own merit.

Also appreciate the friendships that you have, and spend time with those lucky ones as much as possible. It’s tragic to see friends I know abandon all the days of the week to spend it with one person who isn’t their person. It’s almost like they know they’re dating “Mr. Wrong” but rather be validated through having being accepted romantically vs. dating around or dating no one. At the end of the day all of us should realize that somewhere there is someone who will eventually accept you and your amazing flaws. And one day you can meet “your person” but do not push or rush yourself to try and find that (guilty as charged)

Instead realize when you break up with “Mr.Wrong” you’ll go running back to those people you relied on before you started dating them. It hurts me to accept a person can choose to abandon a friendships, think texting makes up for it, and expect it to be all coming up roses when they want the friendship back. I’m realizing this sounds more like a rant versus tricks and tips of surviving wedding season alone.

But first, another Sex and The City quote…

‘I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want as long as I can breathe – and kneel.’ Samantha

 

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Girl, do what and who you want. You are not run by anyone. When you go to a wedding enjoy the free food, the fancy dresses and open bar. Dance the night away and just realize that when the right one falls into your lap you’ll get to enjoy these moments with them.

But for now you have your friends and family to enjoy them with, and those relationships will also last forever.

 

‘Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us and understand us and kiss our three heads and make it all better’  Carrie

Maybe it’s because the majority, if not all of the weddings I’ve attended have been of cousins, I haven’t been as aggravated about my no date situation. But there were weddings in the passed I felt sad I didn’t have a date with, or even anyone to text and say “I miss you” to. I think I have gone passed that all, into a completely calm mindset of what will happen will happen. I know my worth and I know the pieces will fall as they may. In time of sadness or anger I have turned my back to fate. But at that moment fate had another definition. Fate, to me then was in the hands of someone else. Fate, to me now is in my own hands. But only because I have accepted myself more than I ever have, have I accepted fate more.

And  to end it, I have one more Sex and The City quote because Carrie Bradshaw was absolutely ahead of her time.

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The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.’ Carrie

 

For more great amazing lines from the hit show check out: http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/entertainment/tv-and-film/sex-and-the-city-the-best-carrie-bradshaw-quotes-121822

 

 

Just enjoy being no strings attached, let loose and drink up!

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The First of Many Thoughts

The First of Many Thoughts

 

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It’s come to my attention that part of my blog can offer something more than what to wear and where togo. I’d like to divulge more into a in-depth approach to being a female in her late twenties in the current climate we are living in. There are a variety of topics I want to cover, my list keeps on getting longer. Not every topic is oh-so-serious but I’m currently drafting themes of feminism, what I incorporated into my life to cope with depression and anxiety, the life of an influencer, why you should be happy being alone, expert sales and marketing strategies, what I learned working with children to the biggest companies in America. Also, other posts with be more lighthearted dealing with top places togo, eat at and best for photo ops in New York, London, Paris etc. Additionally some will cover my strong love for fashion, beauty and lifestyle.

These blog posts will be listed and tagged under Think Pieces and I can’t wait to start sharing them with you all!

Hope you are having a pleasant day.

Lots of Love!

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