A Love Note to Myself

A Love Note to Myself

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A little late post for Valentines Day but it’s never too late to write a little love note to yourself. I don’t like the idea of Valentines Day too much but I’ve felt more self love lately. As trying to improve my Instagram and get more involved with the fashion community I’ve chosen to incorporate myself into more of my photos.

Ironically I HATE photos of myself and have a huge lack of ability to pose (thanks mom) but it would be great eventually to work with brands I’m a fan of. Luckily, I have friends who are actual models and coach me on how to pose. It only takes one photo out of a hundred to get a decent shot. The spike in followers after London Fashion Week and following posting more portraits of myself has given me a confidence boost.

Where as I’ve been told that posting photos of yourself can be seen as egotistical, it feels freeing for someone who would absolutely cringe at any photo shown of themselves, let a lone be on the other side of the camera. Always was the photographer, never the subject. I can’t take myself seriously anyways, so I’m usually laughing at myself in them.

Thankfully, it doesn’t take much to get a good shot. London has a ton of gorgeous floral facades outside every store to lure in customers and Instagram savvy photographers. With a few tricks given from my model friends we quickly can shoot in front of these lovely locations each other with out too much embarrassment.

Visit Peggy Porschen’s seasonally decked out cafe in Kensington, London.

www.peggyporschen.com

Follow them on Instagram: @peggyporschenofficial

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Anyways, in the love letter written to myself I start with cheers. Here’s to me, excepting to love myself a bit more. To enjoy my silliness, my love of all things visually pleasing and passion for seeing the beautiful corners of the world, photographing and sharing them with like minded others.

My sister reminded me that when I left for London 6 months ago I wanted to achieve all the things I’ve currently have. She told me “Victoria, it happened so fast. You got everything you wanted.” And she’s right.

 

 

 

 

 

I’ve gotten to live in my favorite city, go to London Fashion Week, slowly grow my Instagram, make new friends and blossom as a woman. Self Love, here we are. Crazy how I’ve been able to achieve those things seemingly overnight in the London pressure cooker. I look forward to what the future brings. A key lesson in life is to start the love with yourself and then it will naturally flow into other aspects in your life.

Happy belated Valentines Day to myself  xx

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How to Deal with Being Alone During Wedding Season

How to Deal with Being Alone During Wedding Season

Let’s just start it off right, with a quote from Carrie Bradshaw from the show Sex and The City. The TV hit is celebrating it’s 20 year anniversary, which is wildly beyond me. Growing up I watched every single episode, it inspired me to move to New York City and it taught me the importance of female friendship. But in regards to this Wedding Season thing, I have some words to say.

‘Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.’  Carrie

image-1.jpgIn all honestly this is truly how I feel. I get utterly frustrated when friends or family don’t believe one could actually be happy being alone. Listen, I don’t want to be alone forever but I like spending the time working on myself, doing things that make me happy, going to bed when I want to, traveling with no emotional attachment physically somewhere else, etc.

I think it’s very empowering being single, and even more attractive embracing it. When you come to terms with loving yourself first, everything else will fall into place when it’s not your priority. Do not try and validate yourself through a man, validate yourself on your own merit.

Also appreciate the friendships that you have, and spend time with those lucky ones as much as possible. It’s tragic to see friends I know abandon all the days of the week to spend it with one person who isn’t their person. It’s almost like they know they’re dating “Mr. Wrong” but rather be validated through having being accepted romantically vs. dating around or dating no one. At the end of the day all of us should realize that somewhere there is someone who will eventually accept you and your amazing flaws. And one day you can meet “your person” but do not push or rush yourself to try and find that (guilty as charged)

Instead realize when you break up with “Mr.Wrong” you’ll go running back to those people you relied on before you started dating them. It hurts me to accept a person can choose to abandon a friendships, think texting makes up for it, and expect it to be all coming up roses when they want the friendship back. I’m realizing this sounds more like a rant versus tricks and tips of surviving wedding season alone.

But first, another Sex and The City quote…

‘I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want as long as I can breathe – and kneel.’ Samantha

 

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Girl, do what and who you want. You are not run by anyone. When you go to a wedding enjoy the free food, the fancy dresses and open bar. Dance the night away and just realize that when the right one falls into your lap you’ll get to enjoy these moments with them.

But for now you have your friends and family to enjoy them with, and those relationships will also last forever.

 

‘Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us and understand us and kiss our three heads and make it all better’  Carrie

Maybe it’s because the majority, if not all of the weddings I’ve attended have been of cousins, I haven’t been as aggravated about my no date situation. But there were weddings in the passed I felt sad I didn’t have a date with, or even anyone to text and say “I miss you” to. I think I have gone passed that all, into a completely calm mindset of what will happen will happen. I know my worth and I know the pieces will fall as they may. In time of sadness or anger I have turned my back to fate. But at that moment fate had another definition. Fate, to me then was in the hands of someone else. Fate, to me now is in my own hands. But only because I have accepted myself more than I ever have, have I accepted fate more.

And  to end it, I have one more Sex and The City quote because Carrie Bradshaw was absolutely ahead of her time.

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The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.’ Carrie

 

For more great amazing lines from the hit show check out: http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/entertainment/tv-and-film/sex-and-the-city-the-best-carrie-bradshaw-quotes-121822

 

 

Just enjoy being no strings attached, let loose and drink up!

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Self Love

Self Love

For the month of February I’d like to focus more on self love in my personal life and in my page as well.  The community that has started to build around my instagram has given me a new sense of self confidence and belief in my skills. Instead of worrying about whose going to be wining and dining you this ✨💕r o m a n t i c💕✨ month… just treat yourself.

“Happiness radiates like the fragrance from a flower and draws all good things towards you.”

– Maharishi Mahesh, Yogi

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xoxo